My 2 year old will ONLY sleep if he’s sleeping next to someone.How can I get him to sleep on his own without having to sleep next to someone?

Updated on August 6, 2022

Pretty much since when my son was a newborn he’s always slept with me. He’s now two and he will sleep through the night if he’s sleeping with me or someone else but if he’s by himself he’ll either sleep for an hour or two and wake up or he’ll wake up right away and realize that he’s alone. He will NOT sleep through the night if he’s sleeping by himself. I struggled with this for years now and since he’s two I really want to get him out of this because I don’t want to sleep with him forever.. I want us to have our own beds because I don’t get a good nights sleep when he’s in bed with me because he likes laying all over me.. He sleeps VERY good if he’s in bed with me.. but if he’s in bed by himself he wakes up multiple times a night until I give up and put him in bed with me because I’m so tired. Nothing works. The only thing I can think of is letting him cry himself to sleep but I absolutely don’t want to do that because I would feel terrible knowing he’s in his room crying for his mom. If I don’t pick him up he’ll start screaming and I know that will happen if I let him cry himself to sleep. How can I get him to sleep in his own bed when he’s used to sleeping with me? 

2 Answers

  • Let him cry.

    He MUST learn to sleep alone

    Every time you give in you are only making it worse

  • From what I hear you should sleep with him in his bed until he falls asleep. If he wakes up and goes to your bed, both of you go to his bed and keep trying. My son is 6 years old and still sleeps with me. So do it now before its too late. I would have wanted him to have a bed but our apartment was too small for a kids bed. Now that we have a new apartment he don’t want to sleep in his room. He did for a little bit when I was in the hospital but as soon as I came back it was our regular routine. I have a 6 month old and I want her to sleep in her own bed by 1. Good luck.